(good) Let’s get it straight: the obsession with sex is one of the clearest signs of how lost people are today. Scroll through your feed, what do you see? P*rn disguised as “content,” thirst traps dressed as “empowerment,” and men hypnotized into believing that pleasure is the absolute pinnacle of existence.
But let me tell you something that might sting: if you can’t provide, you don’t deserve.
Not because women are gold-diggers, not because relationships are transactional, but because manhood is responsibility first, indulgence second. A man who prioritizes sex over building, over earning, over creating, is not a man in control. He’s a slave, to his urges, his dopamine hits, his fantasies. Noone wants to hear this those days, but it’s an actual Truth.
And slavery has never built kingdoms.
The Harsh Truth: P*rn Has Rotted the Mind
P*rn is the silent epidemic that no one dares to call out for what it is: psychological and modern castration. It teaches men to chase the image of intimacy without the reality of it. It rewires the brain to reward fantasy while punishing effort. And it convinces entire generations that the world owes them pleasure without contribution.
But here’s reality: no one owes you sex. Not your girlfriend, not your wife, not the world. If you’re not providing (safety, stability, direction) what exactly are you bringing to the table besides neediness?
Sex is not a right. It’s the byproduct of value.
First the Money, Then the Sex
Let’s clear this up. Money isn’t just about buying things. It’s about proving you can create, sustain, and lead. It’s about showing that you can take an idea and turn it into reality, that you can shoulder responsibility without collapsing.
Sex, real sex, not the 30-second scrolling dopamine kick, is tied to that. A woman doesn’t surrender her body to a man who can’t even control his. She doesn’t trust her future to someone who hasn’t even built his present.
So yes, first the money, then the sex. Not because money is the ultimate prize, but because money is the test. Can you hold discipline? Can you push past fear? Can you build something bigger than yourself?
If you can’t, then why would anyone (man or woman) bet their life on you?
The Disease of Instant Gratification
We’ve turned into a culture that worships instant gratification. P*rn. Hookup culture. Swipe apps. People want intimacy without commitment, pleasure without responsibility, results without sacrifice.
But here’s the law of life: you cannot skip the process.
You don’t get the harvest without the planting. You don’t get respect without sweat. And you sure as hell don’t get fulfilling sex (the kind that transforms, not just relieves) without proving that you’re worthy of trust.
Anything else is just masturbation, whether it’s done alone in front of a screen or with someone you don’t care about. Think about it….
Reality Check for Men
Gentlemen, let’s stop lying to ourselves.
- You’re not going to feel like a king if you’re broke.
- You’re not going to earn respect if you can’t even pay your own bills.
- You’re not going to feel fulfilled if your life is built on chasing ass instead of building legacy.
Sex should not be the goal. Sex should be the reward of becoming the man you’re meant to be.
And until you realize that, you’ll keep spinning in circles , broke, frustrated, and addicted to pixels and eventually Cialis that are happy mocking your wasted potential.
Where Do We Go From Here?
This isn’t about demonizing sex. Sex is sacred, powerful, transformative, when it’s in the right place. When it’s earned, not stolen. When it flows out of trust, not desperation.
But the order matters. Get your house in order. Build your life. Lock in. Stack your wins. Create something that commands respect. Then, and only then, watch how naturally the right partner, the right intimacy, the right fulfillment flows into your life.
Because here’s the truth no one tells you: sex without substance is just noise. It fades. It empties you. But sex after discipline, after building, after proving yourself? That’s not just sex. That’s union. That’s power. That’s life.
So What Now?
Well, stop prioritizing what drains you. Stop living like a consumer of bodies, pixels, and empty dopamine. If you want respect, if you want fulfillment, if you want love, start with responsibility.
Because a man who can’t provide has no business demanding pleasure.
And a man who builds first? He doesn’t even have to demand, the world lines up at his door, literally.
